What is Change?
Change is one of the fundamental tenets of coaching, counselling and psychotherapy. If you find yourself feeling stuck in a rut, bored, depressed or resentful, then it is probably time to take a close look at what aspect of your life is asking for change.
Coaching, Counselling and psychotherapy are professional activities that utilise an interpersonal relationship to enable people to develop understanding about themselves and make changes in their lives. Professional coaches,counsellors and psychotherapists work within a clearly contracted relationship that enables individuals, couples or groups to obtain assistance in exploring and resolving situations they wish to manage.
It is important then, to identify what it is that you would like to change. Even if the desired outcome of change is identified as positive, change can be stressful. One of the most anticipated and usually happy events in a woman's life - getting married or having a child - can often involve a great deal of stress.
The stress occurs because as human beings, we are mostly habitual creatures with set comfort levels and every day routines. So as long as these routines work for us and life ticks on as usual, we rarely feel the need to change. Changing core beliefs is often one of the most challenging things to do. Core beliefs are usually stored in the subconscious mind and this part of us is very stubborn when it comes to change. The role of the subconsious is to keep us travelling though life on an even keel. It doesn't like change and is very resistant when faced with changing life-long habits and beliefs. In a way it is a self protection mechanism to maintain the status quo. Change takes the subconsious into unfamiliar territory.
It is only when we find ourselves feeling bored, depressed, resentful, short of money, overweight, sluggish or any other signal that our status quo is disturbed - do we may even think about change.
There is a saying that "change is the only constant in life" (Heraclitis).
If we don't keep changing or evolving and growing, then we become like a stagnant pool of water. The signal that heralds the need for change comes when some aspect of our life stops working and our body sends out an awareness through feelings. If we fail to respond to our body's signal that change is necessary and desirable, then we usually suffer the consequences.
This means that the so called negative emotions are actually a call to action from our subconscious intelligence. Something needs to change so that we can continue to thrive.
Some areas of life that are often subject to change include:
- Relationships - change in status such as becoming engaged, getting married or divorced, impact of infidelity etc
- Where we live - upsizing or downsizing to accommodate changing family size or financial situation, stage of life
- Finances - may be times of financial hardship or unexpected increase in spending power
- Career - advancement, retrenchment, or new area of expertise
- Lifestyle including exercise, diet, recreational activities
- Social connections - friendship groups, community involvement
- Family - planning for and the arrival of a new baby
- Bereavement - losing a family member or friend
- Health - onset of illness
Please go to my blog post Reprogram your subconscious mind for more about making lasting change.